Aug 19, 2023

How Your Sacred Lovers Within Play a Crucial Role in Your Life

By Tiziana Dellarovere / thesacredloverswithin.com
How Your Sacred Lovers Within Play a Crucial Role in Your Life
"Sacred Love" created by Tim Hjersted with Midjourney

Throughout history, people have described the existence of two complementary yet distinctly different principles that make up our entire universe. Some call them Yin and Yang. Some call them Mother Earth and Father Sky. Some call them left and right brain, while others refer to them as Divine Mother and Divine Father. No matter what you call them, all these terms signify that in all of existence there are two fundamental creative principles: the Masculine and the Feminine.

These two archetypal modalities exist in every aspect of creation, including within you. They dwell in your body, in your mind, and in the depths of your psyche. When we refer to the masculine and feminine principles inside of us, we use the terms “inner masculine” and “inner feminine.” Fundamentally, your inner masculine is the way you give to the world, and your inner feminine is the way you receive from the world. Your inner masculine and inner feminine exist within you regardless of your sexual orientation and gender identification (see Why Your Inner Masculine & Feminine Have Nothing To Do With Your Gender). They are fundamentally important to your internal well-being and to your success in the world because everything that you create, as well as how you organize your life, depends on the interplay between the two.

Your inner masculine and inner feminine can be sacred lovers or embattled adversaries

If your inner masculine and your inner feminine are both developed, healthy and empowered, they will be harmonious and collaborative with each other. Then they become your “Sacred Lovers Within,” an infinite source of loving power that gives you self-confidence, makes your relationships more intimate, your work more fulfilling, and your life more meaningful.

With these two powerful allies active within your psyche, you are able to cope with life’s challenges with vitality in your body, love in your heart and tranquility in your mind. Your Sacred Lovers Within give you the inner structure, that is to say, the internal psychological building blocks, to truly achieve your aspirations in the world and fulfill your purpose in life.

On the other hand, if your inner masculine and inner feminine have been crippled by traumas that you’ve suffered personally or inherited from your lineage, they become frozen in dysfunctional patterns and stop their development at an immature stage. Weakened by fear and anger, they are thrown out of balance with each other and become adversarial instead of collaborative. This conflictual relationship and jostling for power over each other also occurs when your inner masculine and inner feminine have been forced to mold themselves to false roles imposed on men and women by our patriarchal society.

These wounded aspects of your inner masculine and inner feminine need to be healed, matured and harmonized, otherwise your life will be fraught with inner conflicts, chaos, drama, unstable relationships, frustration, and patterns that undermine your success. When the inner masculine and inner feminine are in conflict, coping with the challenges that life inevitably presents becomes a continuous uphill battle.

How your inner masculine  and inner feminine complement each other

The first step to healing the wounded aspects of your inner masculine and inner feminine  is to understand their complementary functions and their correct collaborative relationship with each other.

The inner feminine 

The function of the inner feminine is to be receptive. As I described in my article Why Your Inner Masculine And Inner Feminine Have Nothing To Do With Gender, the inner feminine connects you with your internal world of feelings, inspiration and inner guidance. Your inner world is the mysterious realm of intuition and sensitivity that often expresses non-linearly through “gut-feelings” and archetypal symbols, such as in dreams. The inner feminine is the realm of emotions and sudden insights that are perceived like internal illuminations that bring clarity to a problem you could not have resolved rationally.

Your inner feminine points out similarities and wants unification. Through her you find connection with others and feel compassion and a desire to nurture life. She is the one that leads you to be still and to hear the whispers of the spirit, yet it is also through her that you can drop down into the sensations of your body and experience comfort and a sense of belonging to nature and the physical world. But to function and act in the outer world, she needs the inner masculine.

The inner masculine 

The function of your inner masculine is to be the giver. Your inner masculine is focused externally and is the one who springs into effective actions and impacts the outer world by externalizing your talents and abilities. He resolves problems in a linear, logical way by identifying, separating, and compartmentalizing the individual parts of a whole, and then reorganizing the pieces in order to get you where you want to go. Through your inner masculine your life becomes structured and disciplined so that you can achieve your goals in the outer world in the quickest, most efficient way. Through him you honor the sacredness of life with action-oriented service. Your inner masculine gives you the impulse to protect life. But without the guidance of the inner feminine, the inner masculine is like the proverbial bull in a china shop.

The correct relationship between your inner masculine and feminine 

You can see that your inner masculine and your inner feminine are two aspects of yourself that are complementary and need each other to be complete. Your inner masculine needs the sensitivity of your inner feminine to point him in the right direction, otherwise you will achieve the wrong goal, and this will make you feel miserable and off-course even if you are successful. Your inner feminine needs your inner masculine to outwardly express her creative urges, otherwise you will feel stifled and depressed.

Without the guidance of your inner feminine, your inner masculine is like a rocket without a navigation system. Without the correct action of your inner masculine, your inner feminine is like a navigation system without fuel in the rocket. When the rocket is well fueled, and the navigation system is on target, the sky is the limit.

In order to achieve a harmonious collaboration, your inner masculine and feminine must relate to each other in complementary, mutually beneficial ways. Your inner masculine must listen to the wisdom of your inner feminine, who is connected to the true guidance of your soul and who always takes the well-being of the whole into consideration. Without discounting or ignoring her, your inner masculine must take action in the external world and implement her desires. As a result, you feel productive and create an abundance of success and accomplishments in a way that is nurturing to you, and is in harmony with your purpose in life.

Your inner feminine must be open and receptive to the fruits of the inner masculine’s labor and nurture him with stillness, sensuality and intimacy. This enables you to feel perfectly comfortable doing nothing, and just resting and renewing yourself. In addition, your inner feminine opens you to experience intimacy with yourself and your deeper emotions, as well as with the people you love, such as your partner, your family and your friends. The stronger and more protective your inner masculine is, the safer your inner feminine will feel to open up and receive. Then you will be able to be vulnerable and receive the love that is offered to you without fear.

In conclusion

Your inner feminine is like a beautiful climbing rose, rooted in the soil of the earth and opened to receive the rays of the sun and the droplets of rain from the sky, connected with the whole of what surrounds her. Your inner masculine is like a trellis, a structure that creates order and support. The trellis without the rose would be stark, dry and rigid. The climbing rose without the trellis would collapse into a messy in-grown bramble. Together they create a glorious arch of magnificent beauty and formidable strength. Together they are the Sacred Lovers Within.

 

Tiziana DellaRovere is the creator of The Sacred Lovers Within™, a comprehensive method of healing emotional pain and restoring balance to the masculine and feminine in each person. A groundbreaking innovator with over 35 years of expertise in the deep psyche, the inner masculine and inner feminine, and the spirituality of embodied love, Tiziana has helped thousands of people to bring love, harmony, and purpose into their lives.

Read more on her website: thesacredloverswithin.com

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